He Speaks: On Loving My Wife.
I remember the day I fell in love with my wife. It was the day we met, I was in a car accident in front of her house the first day I had my divers license. I was 16 and scared about how much trouble I would be in, and I walked up her driveway and rang the doorbell to ask to use the phone. She answered the door in navy boxers and a white tank top with her hair in a ponytail.
It’s been about 15 years and I still see the same girl I fell in love with. But the problem is, she doesn’t.
I don’t know if it’s because I am a big picture kind of guy, but I don’t see the small things that bring her to tears in her closet or cause her to hate herself for days at a time.
Sure, her body is slightly different, but so is mine. The difference is, I didn’t give birth to three kids, so what’s my excuse?
Any day of the week I can come home from work and find her in the kitchen in her favorite black pants and a tank top, and three kids running around her, that I still can’t believe I had a hand in making, and I think, look what this beautiful girl has given me.
It has nothing to do with her pants size or what some scale says.
I don’t see those things, I just see that same girl.
The difference is, I just love her more.
Even in those black pants she always wears. I’d try to throw them in the garbage without her knowing, but she probably has 12 different pairs of them and she said if I ever touched them she’d slash my tires.
-Andy, husband of Brittany, who is currently swooning and feeling particularity lucky.
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Yeah. Rockin’ post, Andy. Way to make the rest of the husbands look bad. Not to be all self-centered and cynical, but MY darling husband just told me he wanted to divorce me on CHRISTMAS DAY, after I cooked his entire family a HAM DINNER (you’d understand how significant this is if you knew how much I hate to cook), and DIRECTLY before his brother, mean SIL, and 2 children came to stay in our house for 4 days. So, really, to be fair, you could have written, “Eh. My wife doesn’t suck” and I’d still be a little bit pissed at you.
Just so we’re clear.
Now, carry on with your happiness.
UGH! That sucks giant donkey balls!!!
Tara – that is so crappy! Men suck! Except for Andy. But other men, they suck.
Tara, I hate that this has happened to you. I know how hurt you feel. Though I’ve not gone through a situation exactly like that, I have had an ex-husband do some of the most unthinkable, hurtful things. I know it hurts like a bitch and I wish I had the power to take away pain instantaneously – I would take care of you and me both! :)
This is so not true… is it? I’m so sorry. I’ve followed your blog for awhile now and I can’t believe this! no! I’m sorry Tara, this is so not ok.
Yeah, it happened, Lori. And no, I haven’t acknowledged it on my blog because 1) my kids don’t officially know (he sneaks out after they go to bed and either ‘goes to work early’ or sneaks back in the morning (fortunately, he’s a great dad, and we are not screamers, so I think they are more or less oblivious) and 2) I haven’t told my family; they are still reeling from the near-death experience of my brother, plus my mom is a complete psycho and will not handle it well (P.S. I SO wish I could write about her shenanigans on my blog—it would make for a seriously good read ). Also 3) I don’t want to piss off my husband with emotional blog posts and have it impact the amiability of our split. Plus, can we say “ALIMONY”? I so need that. School psychologists make, like, 13 cents per hour.
Sorry, Andy, to high-jack your post. Seriously. You’re a great guy and I took advantage of that to shit all over your post. I’m not as self-absorbed in “non-husband-leaving-me” time.
Awwwww, so sweet!!! I need to find me an Andy, stat!
I think it is safe to say that we all have a little crush on Andy. Sweetest. Post. EVER!
Seriously. *tear* This was perfect.
Totally. He is the bestest.
those ohio boys sure know how to makes us gals feel lucky, don’t they?
Awww this is so sweet…also…why I love my wife. She makes me feel like this all the time. I think that’s why girls are just better at this relationship stuff. I don’t have to wait to hear how awesome she thinks I am. Even first thing in the morning, with yesterday’s makeup still on, crusties in my eyes, she can still tell me, with a straight face, that she thinks I am the most beautiful girl in the world. :)
Kudos on this. I have the same experience with my lovely fiancee. I think women are usually better at this stuff but no matter who it comes from, it takes a lot to learn to actually HEAR it.
Aww, you guys must help make each other great, because you both rock.
I need you to talk to my manfriend, ASAP. I think I just fell in love with you, just a smidge. But only until I got to the part of throwing the black pants in the garbage. I’d slash your tires for that too.
Pretty much the sweetest post ever! Way to go Andy!!
“Andy and Brittany sittin’ in a tree”…..you two are what love is suppose to be!!! There are so many crappy relationships out there, high fives to both of you for making a wonderful life!!!
This made me cry. My husband could have written this. He tries to convey this to me all of the time, but I have a hard time accepting it. My eyes are a little more open now. I need to learn to love myself the way he loves me! Thank you!
Love this! Thanks Andy and beautiful Brittany!
I’m sure you’re cute too Andy, but this is about Brittany right now, k?
:)
*JEALOUS*
In a very good way! You guys should come visit me in Canada – I’m sure Andy could teach my husband a thing or two!
I love this. I, too, have a teeny, tiny internet crush on Andy. My fiance tells me I’m always beautiful…I just don’t always believe him, but I’m trying. For him and for me.
DAMMIT MAN. Now I’m seriously crying.
That is just beautiful. Thank you.
seriously. SWOON.
You rock! Thank you for sharing your point of view with us chicks.
Andy for president!!! ;)
I know my husband feels this way too. That’s part of the reason I let him stick around…
And Brittany, have you got the message yet? He loves you just the way you are! THAT. is worth everything.
(p.s. pretty sure you’ve got the message, I just wanted to reiterate, just in case…) :)
I love this! I still say you two are the cutest couple. :)
There needs to be way more Andy’s in the world.
This brought tears to my eyes.
tears!!
andy, you are seriously an amazing husband!
I hate you both.
Where in the hell did I go wrong? Can you come and train my husband for a few days? Pretty please?
Daren says the same sorts of things to me. I was 118 lbs when we met, and he says he won’t trade my now 165lb body in for a younger model. Course I threatened to slash more than his tires.
Ahhhh, feel the love.
SAME HERE! Poor Danny. He met a size 4 and married a 14…But he loves me. And still offers me a bite of his ice cream, so obviously he isn’t trying to starve me! :)
that is exactly my case! my fiance met a size 6 and hes getting a size 12…but the fortunate part is that he accepted me the way i am and still loves me the same…but me! i got some serious body image issues!!
Can we clone Andy?
AWESOME post. Thanks for making my mascara run. ;)
This is beautiful. Thanks for writing, Andy.
I read this while I was at the Drs and it brought me to tears because it is something my husband could’ve written this about us and my struggle with my weight since giving birth to our 2 daughters.
Awesome post! And its a good thing Andy’s happily married (again!) or there’d be a line of women at his door.
Oh, Andy! I hope this gets you blow jobs for a week!
pretty sure bj’s & hand jobs are in order :)
ANDY! You are The Awesome!
I love Andy. That’s all. But, I love Britt, too, so it’s all good.
Andy…..as I read that I could hear my husband’s voice saying the same things. Between the 2 of us, we’ve gained nearly 100 lbs in our 12 years and he always reminds me that he’s gained more than I have and he’s never been pregnant.
We are lucky to have men like you as fathers to our daughters. Maybe they won’t have the stupid body issues their mothers have.
what an amazing husband!
So sweet, Andy.
Awwwww. Where can I get a guy like this? Seriously. Those who know me know the assholes life has dealt me.
But knowing Andy & Brittany exist makes me hopeful. Someday, right?
There are some great men in this world. Hopefully there are a few single ones left.
I just love this.. Brittany + Andy = luv4ever
xo
someone’s gonna get pregnant!
Totally!
VERY sweet. Great post.
Andy what a great post. I’m sure many husbands feel this way about their wives, but don’t know how to convey it. Maybe we should all share the link to this with our male friends who need help. :)
I thought he couldn’t say anything better than”SO, are you saying we need to have a spare pair of pants, like a spare key,outside in case of an emergency..”(I’m paraphrasing from memory here) he comes out w/ this post. Best. Husband. Ever.
Oh my gah… what a lovely post. When you think of all the superficial shit you see in magazines and all the judgemental crap people spew out of their mouths without even thinking- there comes a post like this and you go “Thank Jesus! There ARE men out there who actually care!” Its nice to see a marriage that is strong and secure, where 2 people appreciate each other for exactly who they are. It makes me feel hopeful and I thank you guys for that. Way to go Andy, you’re a good man…
Andy, you rock!! What a beautifully written post!!
And I second that Ohio men are the best. ;)
gah. totally crying over here.
So, so sweet. I had actual tears.
this officially made me tear up! you are both so lucky!
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